Everything has an energy around it.
When you think about what you do, the habits you hold, and what turns you on or off, there's energy in it.
Where did your view of it come from?
How do you use it to benefit yourself?
What limitations do you have around it?
What are your strengths?
There are so many ways something, and the energy it holds for us, contributes to the patterns we see in how we use it.
Take money, for example.
For most people, money is seen as a way to survive.
We need it for food to stay alive.
We need it for shelter.
We need it to buy things and pay for needs and wants.
I remember as a kid, learning about needs and wants from a financial standpoint.
What is a need? What is a want?
Often, needs are tied to survival or the means to survive.
Wants are tied to things that are once-in-a-lifetime, annual occurrences, or random situations where a want becomes a need in that moment, in whatever capacity.
When we look at how to change something, we have to look at what we were and where we were.
What was your upbringing like? Past energy shapes how we see future energy.
For me,
I grew up middle class. I was spoiled in a sense and also struggled. That followed me throughout my life into adulthood, in this “almost” sort of middle ground.
Almost not having to think about money.
Almost out of debt.
Almost financially stable.
Just almost.
And I would find myself back at the starting point, having to rebuild myself financially for one reason or another.
I remember my mom telling me how she got in and out of debt multiple times, same with my maternal grandma, and I didn’t want my life experience to be the same.
I did experience it, and so, coming back to the space of seeing that pattern of almost, how do I actively change it?
1. Acknowledged my pattern.
For me, it was the Almost loop. When I think about this loop, I immediately think about settling. Settling for whatever just because that seems like my only option.
2. Look at MY current energy around (What do I normally use it for?)
Positives: Good food, comfortable and clean accommodations, quality groceries, experiences that provide growth spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally, fun... memories that I can talk about forever
Negatives: Constantly having to owe someone
3. What needs to change?
-Not creating extra debt that I don’t need
-Judgment around why I spend my money the way I do
-Feeling of never having enough towards all the areas I want to enjoy
4. What energy doesn’t belong to me? (Ancestoral/generational/societal/socioeconomic etc energy)
- Judgment-others’ opinions of what I need to do with my money
-Taking on other people’s problems (obligation versus just wanting to)
-Being too strict or too loose
5. What energy do I want to have with it? (How do I want to use it?) Values
-Freedom to do what I want to do at any time
-Comfort and quality
- Long-term growth
-Give back/Support others
You can apply these questions to anything where you need to let go of the old for something new to come in.
Here’s another thought for you,
Let’s say you’re making $10,000 a month.
Your job requires you to work 60+ hours a week, leaving little energy for anything else you’d want to do (love, enjoyment, travel).
The energy behind that $10k a month, working 60+ hours, isn’t the best because you spend all your energy trying to recoup what you give away at work.
You’ll always feel depleted in some way.
How can you change that while staying financially stable and secure in a way that feels good to you?
-Do you have to make $10k a month?
- Is there another way to bring that same amount in while working fewer hours?
- If you notice you don’t need $10k a month to be secure and stable, can you cut down your hours?
It circles back to what you value; what’s important to you.
I’ll end with this,
No matter what you are navigating, the energy around it, within it, and within yourself matters.
Energy is neither created nor destroyed; it’s merely transferred.
It’s a reflection.